How strong
will one hold their beliefs? Just today I have experienced something that I
thought didn’t matter to me at all. I see other people who I am acquaintances,
and if they do something I dislike I tolerate it. To each their own, I always
thought I would follow this phrase my whole life, but today was something
different. My friends have always been the people who shaped me because my
family isn’t ideal. I love my family, however, we are not very close. My whole life
the concept of not doing drugs has affected me. My dad is an alcoholic and a
drug user and when he did do them I can honestly say I resent him. He has
gotten better, which makes me happy; however, today was different. I am pretty
liberal, and I’ve always been fine with people using weed, and it wouldn’t
bother me, but today my friends were planning to use it; additionally, never
have I ever thought about this situation. At first I played it in my head how
it wouldn’t even affect me, but when all my close friends were all for it, it
kind of hurt me. I am definitely still friends with people who use it, but it
seemed different when they were my “ride or die” friends. Like I didn’t want to
affiliate with them for a while as soon as it hit. It seems like I’m paranoid
by previous experiences (ex: my dad) for the reason I’m so uncomfortable with
this. I love my friends till death, however, is it wrong that just because of
this I see them differently?
I’m just
wondering if I went too far. I’m also curious that if it bothers me this much,
should I try to deal with it? Am I in the wrong here?
Shout out to Grant
Shout out to Grant
Hayden, I think its okay to see people differently because its your choice and they should not dictate on what you do
ReplyDeleteHayden,
ReplyDeleteI can understand where you are coming from. I can see why your friends wanting to smoke weed could make you uneasy because of your personal life. However, I am a strong believer that we should not judge others and we should take our friends for the good and the bad. You might not agree with every decision they make but at the end of the day they are your friends and you love them. I do not think that it is entirely wrong that you see them differently maybe because you are just surprised and taken back that they would want to because you never thought they would. I just don't believe that you should treat them any differently because of the choice they are making. Also, just because you have feelings and something bothers you, it doesn't automatically make your views wrong. This situation hits close to home for you. Maybe it is just a phase for your friends or they are just curious. Just try not to think about it too much, your friends will figure it out eventually. Just be there for them if they fall and need someone to pick them back up.
If what they're doing makes you feel uncomfortable or see them differently it's ok. You've experienced drug use in your own family therefore, you know the effects it has on people. Personally, I hate drugs and alcohol because it messes up peoples minds. It changes them into someone they're not, so you shouldn't feel bad about seeing them differently. As hard as it is maybe you shouldn't hang around them if they're going to try to get you involved with that.
ReplyDeleteI don't think that your change of view regarding your friend is bad or anything. First off, your paranoia is completely justified since you have first-hand experience with drugs before from your father. Also, whatever actions these people choose to do, that's the things they are choosing to represent themselves, so your change of view is probably a natural process
ReplyDeleteWith that being said, I don't think you should be forcing your ideal on other people. It's not as if by just doing weed, these friend of your will start behaving badly like your father.
If they are your friend, they should understand the reason why you are uncomfortable with their action, and maybe they will try to avoid doing it in front of you or something. Anyway, I hope everything turn out all right.